"This is right and it's all going to be okay."
What started as a small and simple idea to gather local women together, all of whom had endured some level of betrayal trauma, The Togetherness Project has grown into something so big and beautiful and totally unexpected. Since our beginning in 2013, the Project has united hundreds of women from all over the United States (and different parts of the world) through our conferences, our online and local communities, and our social media efforts. For many women, a unique sisterhood, a sense of belonging, and a safe place to share the hardest and most painful parts of their lives has been found.
Togetherness has only been possible because of unbelievably devoted and passionate team members: Amy Egbert, Hilary Johnson, and Shay Carl.
Through sweat and sometimes tears . . .
Through late night meetings, that end in laughing so hard our stomachs hurt and our eyes are tearing up . . .
Through difficult pregnancies and motherhood . . .
Through soaring feelings of accomplishment mixed with utter exhaustion . . .
Through the joys of playing some small part in one woman finding out that she is NOT alone in this . . .
Through endless conversations about the past, present, and future of Togetherness . . .
And after thousands of hours of hard work and a million sweet moments of emotional pay offs . . .
The time has come to bittersweetly announce that Togetherness is coming to an end.
While I experience a very real sadness as I type the words "end" and my heart feels like it's going to beat right out of my chest, I know it's all going to be okay. One of my very favorite quotes says:
"You can have anything in the world that you want. You just can't have everything."
I think the last few years have taught us firsthand the magnitude of truth and wisdom in those simple words. While we have devoted our hearts, hands, and time to this beautiful cause that we believe in SO much, we feel propelled that it's time to give more of our hearts, hands and time back to our families, as well as other adventures that are calling us.
Please know that this decision did not come easily, nor did it come quickly. Rather, it has slowly evolved and while there is sadness, there is also an undeniable peace among us because the Project has fulfilled a remarkable purpose. From the beginning, it has stuck to its mission and it has soared. And while the Project's work has reached further than any of us ever imagined it would, I must say that I think the one person it has impacted the very most might just be me.
Tears are streaming down my cheeks as I reflect on and try to express just what Togetherness has meant in my life. It has given PURPOSE to the pain I could never and will never make sense of. It has given me permission to let go of the bitterness and anger that once felt all-consuming. It has allowed for a newfound hope to dwell within me. It has offered me an ability to believe in and see GOOD in the world again.
But most importantly, Togetherness has led me to some of the most extraordinary people I have ever had the privilege of meeting. Because of this work, I am completely surrounded by courageous and graceful souls, who are fighting every single day to RISE ABOVE, and I am in awe by their resiliency, their forgiveness, their compassion, their authenticity, their vulnerability, their strength, their uniqueness and their overwhelming beauty. Togetherness has changed my life in a very real way. From top to bottom, inside out. I am a better person because of it. Because of you.
In light of this significant news, we're going to do what we do best and put on one
FINAL TOGETHERNESS CONFERENCE
in Midway Utah on August 27th, 2016
where we'll provide an empowering, unforgettable, and exhausting (in a good way) day of great content and inspiring stories, as well as many resources available as you'll fight for recovery, healing, and hope in your lives moving forward. Whether you're new(er) to our community, or you're a Togetherness veteran, we hope you'll mark your calendars and share in this very special day with us!
sW.E.B. Dubois says,
To say Togetherness has been an experience of a lifetime would be an understatement and I know Amy, Hilary and Shay share the same sentiments.
As so many of us can attest, it is an absolute honor to be part of what many of us call "the crappiest club on earth". . .
Because my deepest trials, the most indescribable pain, my life not going as planned, all of the things I thought would destroy me, have actually led me here… to you… and as strange as it may sound to some, I'd never trade it. Never in a million years.
So, on behalf of myself and the Togetherness Team, thank you for being on this unbelievably hard, yet totally rewarding journey with us.
Thank you for believing in Togetherness as much as you have and for your love and support.
Thank you for being you . . . because YOU have made Togetherness everything it is!
Thank you for changing our lives in a very a real way.
WE LOVE YOU!
Please watch our Facebook page for important announcements like: when registration opens, where the event will be held, where we'll be sleeping the night before and how to get a group rate for a hotel room, who the amazing speakers will be, a peek at the schedule and class descriptions, scholarship info, FAQ about the event, and all other details of what "ending Togetherness" means, how these changes will affect our online and local communities, and the time frame in which it will happen. We appreciate your patience.
See you in August!
All our love,
Jacy & the Togetherness Team
(Amy, Hilary & Shay)