I realized after catching him a third time over a span of nine years that this wasn't just a 'little problem'. I then discovered after disclosures that it had been happening the entire time. But after the third was when I realized he needed help that I couldn't give him.
Two weeks after that when I almost fell apart, in tears, at a Wal-Mart was when I realized I needed my own help. I love the Rowboat and Marbles blog. My biggest support has been the in-person WORTH group in Farmington, Utah. And then the connections I've made in the Togetherness Community. Personal therapy and having a good support in my ecclesiastical leader. I have also relied on a few friends and have made several within Togetherness that have been a great support.
Knowing that woman out there are dealing with similar issues helps me to know that I can get through it too. Plus it helps knowing on the bad days I have a safe place to vent or ask questions. Recovery for me has been learning how to hold and keep healthy boundaries, taking care of myself, seeing realistic goals for myself, learning to rely on my Savior and the power of the atonement.
Contributed by a member of our Togetherness Community private facebook group. To find out more about our Togetherness Communities, click here.