When did I realize I needed my own recovery? When the pain of my relationships got to large to bare on my own.
I realized that my recovery was separate from his when I married my second husband who is also am addict and I carried the same choices, issues and reactions with me.
I found valuable resources. The 'Rowboats and Marbles' blog, the Togetherness Community and the online private group, CO-SA groups and my Church's addiction recovery groups for women, and the books, 'Courage to Heal', and 'Secret Survivors: Uncovering Incest and Its After-Effects in Women'.
What does recovery look like to me? Having healthy boundaries in my relationships, and having the ability to be present with my life and kids, instead of being hyper focused on my partner's issues. Also, daily maintenance of my body, mind and spirit.
Why do I need to work my own recovery? To keep my sanity.
Connection is so important. Having other women to listen and type/talk to has given me strength to set boundaries.
Contributed by a member of our Togetherness Community private facebook group. To find out more about our Togetherness Communities, click here.