Why do I need recovery?
I'm not the addict. I didn't 'screw up'. It's 'his problem'.
All of that thinking was exactly WHY I needed recovery. We are all flawed. We all carry hurts and faulty beliefs about ourselves and others that hold us back or limit us. Recovery has been a beautiful journey into the deepest recesses of myself. It has been better to know and understand my weaknesses, strengths, character defects and greatest abilities and talents. I make more of my life the more I understand myself. I work recovery for me. He works recovery for him. And then, healthier, we come together and work on our marriage together.
I am not meant to sit around waiting for someone else to make me happy, healthy or whole!
Focus on yourself -- find a support group, start attending a 12 step meeting, join the Togetherness Community, find an amazing therapist you click with -- but most of all, know that you are worth the work. It can be scary, it can be hard, time consuming, discouraging and difficult -- but we will always end up better off for our efforts when our mission is to find out who we are, what makes us tick, what makes us happy and how to be our best selves. Focus on you. You are worth the time and effort. We are not meant to sit around waiting for someone else to make us happy, health or whole!
Contributed by a member of our Togetherness Community private facebook group. To find out more about our Togetherness Communities, click here.