In 2010, I woke up after a harrowing night of pain. I hadn’t been in an accident, though it felt exactly as if I had. After six years of being aware of what I thought was a slight (and natural) pornography problem on my husband's part, I was hit with the reality that he was not only getting worse despite my efforts to help him, to forgive him, and to bring light and love into our home . . . he was addicted. I felt hopeless, powerless, and lost. I felt LOSS. I had never felt such extensive emotional pain; it breached the borders of emotion and flooded into physical pain. I physically ached and hurt.
All of the emotions from the night before came rushing back as I sat in the only clean corner of my bedroom and opened my lap top, desperate to find one couple, one family, one PERSON who had overcome sexual addiction.
Was it even possible?
Over and over the question ran through my mind. I was terrified of what the answer might be.
What I didn’t know then was that just one year previously, Steven and Rhyll Crowshaw had founded a non-profit organization: SA Lifeline. While I was waking up crumpled in a corner of a dirty house, they were waking up and working recovery. They HAVE stayed together. What’s more: there is sobriety AND recovery in their marriage and family relationships. I began studying their story and life. Their mission is to help not only individuals recover, but marriages and families as well! Their story is full of hope, truth, and light.
They believe recovery IS possible.
They believe true healing, restoration, and salvation comes through God.
They believe that Healing = Courage+Action+Grace.
They believe shame is the root of addiction.
They believe trauma for spouses is real.
They believe in living in the present and leaving the rest to God.
They believe in their mission of sharing their story of hope.
They believe recovery takes ongoing efforts with a therapist who has experience treating sexual addiction.
They believe recovery takes ongoing spiritual guidance.
They believe recovery takes education.
They believe working the 12-step program with a sponsor is vital to the healing process and employ SA and S-anon literature in their SA Lifeline meetings.
Most of all, they believe in God and moving forward as He would have them.
Four years after waking up on that awful “morning after,” I sat in an SA Lifeline Conference in Utah and listened to real people testify of hope. I heard a sex addict speak openly, shamelessly and honestly about his addiction and his successful efforts to recover. I heard a wife of a sex addict speak bravely, full of resiliency and hope. I heard a daughter of a sex addict speak of new family patterns of openness that have replaced old family patterns of silence.
And as I listened, tears filled my eyes.
I cried for the woman on the floor four years ago, desperately seeking for a shred of hope, any degree of living proof that
HE could recover,
I could recover,
WE could recover,
And OUR FAMILY could find healing through God.
Sexual Addiction Lifeline is just that – a lifeline to those seeking direction to healing.
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Shared by Alicia at brabadges.blogspot.com